As our pets age and clearly start showing us signs of struggling, we are faced with making the decision of when to let go. Similarly, those with pets that have a chronic or recently diagnosed disease also must come to terms with the inevitable decision. Many are simply at a loss and unsure. Some may simply not be able to decide to be essentially emotionally paralyzed. Many people have experienced the regrets of waiting too long with another pet, but also are afraid of saying good-bye too soon. As an end-of-life veterinarian I hope to be able to guide you in this difficult process, as long as you are not faced with a trauma or serious illness that requires and urgent decision.
This decision can take some time for you to be able to step back and see things from a more objective and less emotional perspective. There is growing understanding and acknowledgement that the loss of a pet can be as painful, if not more so than losing the people in our lives. So I urge you at this time to honor your gut feelings and try not to be overly influenced by well-meaning friends or family. If they don’t live with and/or interact with your pet daily, or if they have never owned or been close to an animal, then they simply cannot understand all the aspects of your special relationship with your pet. As long as there is not an urgent, quickly declining illness, there often is no “right” or “wrong” time to say goodbye. I truly make it my aim to guide you through all the emotions and uncertainty you are facing and come up with a plan that works for all involved. Know that you will never be pressured, but guided, even as things may change. If needed, I will refer you to other professionals for additional help. It is truly a time to honor your pet and assure that your decision is one you are at peace with.
Another situation that I encounter from time to time is owners that do not believe in euthanasia. Because we as humans have the ability to humanely end the suffering of our companions does not mean it is the right decision for everyone. I do not feel it is my right to judge others’ beliefs but instead strive to help with providing adequate comfort and pain relief to the animal. I will discuss openly with you what I feel is possible to this end. And again I will refer you to other professionals as needed.
Below are some suggestions regarding behavior that can help you to evaluate for yourself if the time is near.
- Changes in appetite or drinking
- Loss of interest in play
- Periods of confusion and unexplained vocalization
- Loss of ability to stand up
- Progressive difficulty breathing
- More bad days than good
- Financial or time constraints on the family.
- Physical restrictions of the care taker(s).
Once the decision to euthanize has been made, there are a few things we recommend that you consider.
- Where do you want to say goodbye? (inside, outside, at a favorite place)
- Who do you want to be present?(family, friends, children, other pets)
- What are your aftercare wishes?(home burial, cremation with or without the return of ashes)
- How can I remember/honor my pet? (clay paw prints, memorial plaques, jewelry)
- Would you like a memorial service during or after the euthanasia?